Do you ever feel like you’re holding yourself back because of a lack of confidence? I’ve been there, and it’s not a great feeling.
But, there is a powerful way to manifest confidence, and it is done by deliberately working with your subconscious mind.
In this article, I will explain how to give “suggestions” to yourself that will automatically remove “bad code” within you and pave the way for confidence. It’s a powerful method that can be applied to anything – not just the development of confidence.
I have tried to make this article as practical as possible, giving you a clear picture of what to actually do. Remember, this will require that you do the internal work. Reading a guide like this will never be enough.
This is the short answer:
Confidence is your normal state, and it will naturally and automatically come when insecurities and limiting beliefs are out of the way. Manifesting confidence is about working with your subconscious mind, for the purpose of removing “bad code” that is inhibiting your confidence. Through the techniques in this article, you can implant new ideas in the subconscious that pave the way for confidence to appear.
Let’s now take a more in-depth look at it.
This is a long article, so feel free to jump to relevant sections.
Confidence is a belief in oneself and one’s abilities. It’s a state of mind – the feeling of assurance and certainty that comes from knowing that you can handle a particular situation or task. The key trait of a confident person is his ability to face uncertainty.
Confidence is not about being perfect or always knowing the right thing to do in every situation, but it’s a sense of having solid ground to stand on within oneself. A confident person feels that he or she is enough.
There are different types of confidence, such as social confidence, work-related confidence, and general confidence. You may have a lot of confidence in your abilities career-wise but feel inadequate and awkward when it comes to social situations.
That being said, confidence tends to “spill over.” When you have just a little bit of confidence in some aspect of yourself, you will become more confident in general, which also means that you are likely to become more confident in all other aspects too.
A person who has a lot of success in his or her career will have a higher estimation of himself or higher self-worth and may therefore derive his social confidence from this.
Confidence can also come from a general trust in yourself and your ability to deal with unknown or uncomfortable situations.
It can also come from accepting yourself for who you are and understanding your intrinsic value as a human being. Sometimes this may even be due to an understanding of what you are rather than who you are, and perhaps this is the most deep-rooted form of confidence.
Why Manifesting Confidence Is Often Easier Than Manifesting External Results
When it comes to manifesting confidence, there’s actually a unique advantage you might not have thought of. Unlike manifesting external results or changes in the physical world, manifesting confidence is primarily focused on changing our own actions, behaviors, and beliefs.
The fact that confidence mainly has to do with your own mind and your own behavior will make it easier for you to believe that it will work. It’s a lot easier to believe that we can influence our own minds and body as opposed to the external world.
Belief is important. The more you believe in your own abilities, the greater they become. Anything that gives a firm ground for belief is welcome.
Confidence is something internal, and there is a general acceptance among psychologists of the positive effect meditation, visualization, affirmations, etc., have on a person’s self-confidence, plus actual scientific research backing it up. This, again, will give you solid ground for belief.
Define What Confidence Means To You
Before you can start manifesting greater confidence in your life, it’s important to define what confidence means to you personally. What does it look like when you feel confident? What kinds of thoughts and behaviors do you associate with confidence? What would the confident version of you be like? This is not to say that you have to set down hard and fast rules on what confidence is and isn’t, but having a clear understanding of what confidence means to you, gives you clarity and direction.
For some people, confidence may mean being able to speak up in social situations and express their opinions without fear of judgment. For others, it may mean feeling comfortable and competent in their work or personal life. Whatever it means to you, take some time to reflect on what confidence looks and feels like for you.
Doing this, your mind will automatically begin to form an idea of what a more confident you would be like – giving it an aim.
Having a picture of what confidence is to you also makes it easier to see how your current thoughts, feelings, and beliefs contrast with those of the confident version of you. By becoming aware of your current mental patterns, you separate yourself from them, and it becomes easier to embody a new mental state.
Perhaps you want to be more confident in general, or maybe you have your mind on a particular “area” of life in which you would like to be more confident. Either way, remember that confidence is not about being perfect or never experiencing self-doubt. It’s about having a belief in yourself and your abilities, even in the face of challenges and setbacks. Also, as said earlier, becoming confident in one “area” will generally make you more confident in all areas of life.
Confidence Is Your Natural State
Confidence is not something new that doesn’t exist within us – it’s something that we already possess.
It’s our natural state of being, but it has been inhibited by insecurities and beliefs that we’ve picked up during our lives. Confidence is not something to be “achieved,” so to speak, but is released when we get rid of “bad code” within us.
When we’re born, we’re full of confidence and curiosity, ready to explore the world around us without worrying about what others think. But as we grow older, we start to internalize negative beliefs about ourselves and our abilities. Maybe we were told, directly in words or indirectly through our experiences, that we’re not good enough or that we’ll never succeed. Maybe we’ve experienced failures or rejections that have to build deeply emotionally rooted, limiting beliefs deep in our subconscious mind.
These negative beliefs act as a barrier to our natural state of confidence.
The understanding that confidence is not something new you need to develop but rather something that is automatically released once you begin looking at your deep-rooted insecurities will make it a lot easier to develop confidence as you now know where to put your efforts.
Why “Manifest” Confidence? Is it Different from Gaining Confidence In A Normal Way?
Although developing confidence through conventional means and manifesting confidence are similar, there is a difference. In both cases, you are changing your mental activity to become more confident.
However, in manifesting, we intentionally work with the subconscious mind, which is not typically addressed or even mentioned in conventional confidence-building methods.
The subconscious mind is always present and always in use. Manifesting works by intentionally impressing or suggesting ideas to the subconscious mind, which operates by its own laws, and if the idea of you being a confident person is fulfilled in the subconscious mind, you will resultingly become a confident person.
The subconscious mind is the powerhouse within you, and it will begin to “move” things once a new idea is accepted. You will be caused to do and see certain things, and certain events will appear, which all culminate in the manifestation of the intended result.
When we manifest confidence, we understand that we have to impress thoughts that align with confidence on the subconscious mind with the understanding that the subconscious mind is the causative power. It is the deeper part of yourself, so it also holds beliefs, self-concepts, and reoccurring thoughts in your mind. The reason you are not confident is that your subconscious mind holds ideas that cause you to feel insecure about yourself.
So basically, the reason I say “manifest” is that we are intentionally and knowingly working with the subconscious mind, and the subconscious mind is rarely even mentioned in “normal” methods for achieving confidence.
Dealing With The Subconscious Mind
The subconscious mind is the “thing” you have to work with when manifesting. It is the “first cause” and is responsible for the manifestations in your life, including your level of self-perception and self-confidence.
Before we look at the practical steps, I first want you to understand these three things.
1: The subconscious mind will accept suggestions when in a hypnotic state
By going into a hypnotic or meditative state of consciousness, you can impress new ideas or beliefs on the subconscious mind.
So, first, before you try and implant new things in the subconscious mind, not that it will be a lot more effective if you go into a meditative mental state first. We will talk about how to do this later on.
2: Once an idea is accepted, it will manifest.
Once you successfully implant a new idea in the subconscious mind, the idea will begin to show itself both in the external world and in your individual mental state and your individual behavior.
3: The subconscious mind works by its intelligence (talk about how the conscious mind and the subconscious mind are like two distinct minds within you.)
It’s almost like there is a separate being within you, thinking its own thoughts, doing its own work.
Your job is to impress ideas on it, ideas that kill your existing insecurities, and ideas that imply confidence. You do not create the confidence yourself – once it is impressed on the subconscious mind, it takes the initiative and realizes the idea.
How Do You Manifest Confidence? Practical Steps
Let’s not get into the doing part of this article – what do you actually do in order to become more confident?
In short, you need to suggest ideas that imply confidence to the subconscious mind until actual confidence is manifested in your mind.
You also need to focus on the insecurities and beliefs that keep you from being confident. When you begin to scrutinize and analyze them, they will become less and less powerful, allowing for confidence to appear automatically.
So, here are three things you can do in order to manifest confidence in yourself.
When you go into a meditative/hypnotic state of consciousness, you get more in touch with the subconscious mind, where all your beliefs and insecurities are stored.
As we looked at before, the subconscious mind becomes amenable to suggestions when we meditate, and you can now give it suggestions that it will accept. Before you visualize or affirm, I highly recommend you first go into a relaxed mental state.
Remember when we talked about how confidence is the default state? Meditation not only allows you to impress new ideas to the subconscious mind, but simply meditating with a completely quiet mind will automatically cause your natural inborn confidence to rise to the surface.
Meditation is not as scary as it may sound. It really just is about relaxing your “surface mind.”
If you let yourself become the “observer,” the pure awareness within you, you disidentify with the ego. Pure awareness simply just is, and when you habitually begin to identify yourself with this “is-ness,” the limiting beliefs, insecurities, suppressed emotions, etc., will actually begin to melt away on their own. There comes a gap between you and your thoughts.
All this gets rid of the “bad code” within you, and confidence will naturally come to the forefront. You automatically and naturally become confident because you have an innate understanding and appreciation of what you ARE.
As well as that, meditation makes your subconscious mind amenable to suggestions, enabling you to impress “confident ideas.”
So, I highly recommend you begin to meditate – on a somewhat regular basis, at least. It doesn’t even have to be for that long. In my experience, the key to staying consistent with meditation is to enjoy it, as this will make it less of a chore.
Visualize – Imagining That You Are Confident
Visualization is a great way to impress the subconscious mind. It is not only great for manifesting external goals but also works for “mental things” like confidence. By visualizing yourself as confident, you are impressing this idea on your subconscious, which gradually usurps and kills off the old insecurities and limiting beliefs.
[Also read my full guide on how to use visualization for manifesting]
Take time each day to go into meditation (as it gets you more in touch with the subconscious mind) and then visualize yourself as feeling extremely confident in yourself while doing something that would have otherwise made you anxious.
Choosing Scenes That Imply Confidence
When you’re in a meditative state, begin visualizing a mental scene that implies that you are now confident. Visualize yourself in a situation where you would normally feel anxious or insecure, but this time, see yourself handling it with confidence and ease.
Here are some examples of possible scenes:
- Visualize yourself walking into a room with your head held high, feeling confident and empowered.
- Visualize yourself giving a presentation or speech with ease and confidence, connecting with your audience effortlessly.
- Visualize yourself in a challenging situation, like a job interview or important meeting, feeling calm and confident as you handle it with ease.
- Visualize yourself succeeding at a task you’ve been struggling with, feeling confident and capable as you overcome obstacles and achieve your goals.
- Visualize yourself in a social situation, meeting new people and making new friends with ease and confidence.
You don’t have to choose the same scene every time – the important thing is the meaning or intention behind it.
How To Visualize The Scene
Imagine from a first-person point of view. That is, see things from your own eyes. Imagine the sights, sounds, smells, and sensations associated with the given scenario, and try to feel the positive emotions associated with it.
Make the scene as vivid as possible, but do not stress over it. The important thing is to create the same mental state you would be in if your scene was actually happening. In real life, do you stress about the clarity or the coherence of the environment that surrounds you now? – No, you don’t. Even if your mental imagery is extremely blurry just pretend that you are actually seeing it and that things in the scene are there as they would be as if it were actually happening.
The key is to feel the reality of the scene, which is done by letting yourself be there without your constant judgment of whether or not you’re doing it correctly.
It’s important to practice visualization regularly, ideally on a daily basis. Over time, you should start to notice subtle shifts in your attitude and behavior as your subconscious mind begins to embrace your new, confident self-image as reality.
Affirmations are also a great way to impress your subconscious mind. Affirmations are basically positive statements you repeat to yourself that AFFIRM something.
Affirmations are basically suggestions we give to the subconscious mind, creating new beliefs within us.
Like with visualization, going into a meditative state of consciousness makes affirmations more powerful than only repeating them at random times throughout the day.
How To Affirm
To use affirmations to manifest confidence, a good way is to start identifying your underlying insecurities and limiting beliefs that hinder your confidence. Once you have identified these limiting beliefs, you can create affirmations that counteract them.
For example, if you have a limiting belief that you are not good enough to succeed, you can create an affirmation such as, “I am capable of achieving success in all areas of my life.”
If you feel insecure in social situations, you could affirm something like “I am confident in social situations, and I easily connect with others” or “I am worthy of love and acceptance, just as I am.” Affirming this will prompt the subconscious mind to actually manifest the underlying meaning of those statements. You will begin to feel more “worthy” and “confident” in social situations, and you will also find that others will act toward you in a way that will confirm this.
It’s important to use positive language in your affirmations and to phrase them in the present tense as if you are already confident. Personally, I do think you can say I WILL be confident (future tense), but saying it in the present tense, as if it were already a fact, is a sure way to go.
Again, feel the reality of the affirmations. When you say “I am confident,” feel that you are giving direction to the infinite, causing it to gradually manifest confidence within you. Understand that you are causing “movement” on a deeper level of reality which is unseen to you, but before you know it, you will feel a sense of reassurance and confidence gradually welling up within you.
Look for insecurities
Finding and killing insecurities will automatically pave the way for confidence.
Let’s use “social situations” for this example. Perhaps you’ve convinced yourself that you’re not good enough, interesting enough, or likable enough to connect with others. These beliefs can be deeply ingrained in our subconscious minds, making them difficult to overcome.
To begin, take some time to reflect on your social experiences. What makes you feel insecure or anxious in social situations? Is it a fear of rejection or judgment? A lack of confidence in your conversational skills? A belief that you’re not interesting or likable enough to connect with others?
Once you’ve identified these insecurities, take a moment to acknowledge them and recognize that they are not necessarily true or accurate representations of yourself.
Challenge these assumptions by finding evidence that contradicts them. If you believe that you’re not interesting enough to connect with others, remind yourself of times when people have enjoyed your company or found your insights valuable. Often, a little analysis will reveal to you that your negative assumptions about yourself had no solid ground to stand on.
Use things like visualization and affirmations to contradict the insecurities. For example, if you’ve found that you believe you are too uninteresting, go into meditation and affirm whatever counter-ideas that you agree with, like “I am interesting,” “everyone is interesting because everyone has their unique story,” or maybe even “being interesting is not important,” “many uninteresting people have great social lives.”
Do Not Force Confidence
“When the will and the imagination are antagonistic, it is always the imagination which wins, without any exception.”Émile Coué, Self Mastery Through Autosuggestion, 1922
A common mistake when manifesting something is trying to FORCE the outcome. You cannot FORCE confidence because it comes from a place of insecurity, and it will, therefore, only reinforce the insecurity.
You can only imagine that you are confident, but you can’t actually create confidence – that is the job of the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind will automatically prompt you to do and understand certain things, which will eventually kill off your limiting beliefs and insecurities that are blocking your already existing, inborn confidence until the intended result is achieved.
When you affirm or visualize confidence, understand that the subconscious mind has created confidence on a deeper level of reality and that it is “growing” into an actual mental state in your mind. You may not feel that confidence in yourself just yet, but it will come if you just persist in this assumption.
Confidence is our natural state of being and is inhibited by insecurities and beliefs we’ve picked up during our lives, so becoming confident is not a matter of achieving something “new” but releasing something that is already there,
Confidence is not about being perfect or always knowing what to do in every situation, but rather having a solid ground to stand on within yourself.
Remember that manifesting confidence is easier than manifesting external results or changes in the physical world because it primarily involves changing one’s own actions, behaviors, and beliefs. Confidence is mainly “in your head,” so you don’t have to believe that your thoughts will affect the external world (even though they will).
I recommend you use techniques such as visualization and affirmations while in a meditative state in order to suggest the idea of confidence to the subconscious mind. When this idea is accepted by the subconscious mind, you will gradually go through a series of both mental and external events culminating in you becoming a confident person.
The key is to remember that the subconscious mind is the causative power, also for “mental things” like confidence. You, therefore, need to go within and actually do the mental work in order for you to get actual results.
I hope you found this article helpful. Thanks for reading!